How to not be lazy: Stay super motivated
How do we motivate ourselves? How do we not become lazy? While we are at work we think of all the productive things that we plan to do when we get back home, only to find that in reality once we get home we take off our shoes put our feet up have some dinner and perhaps surf the Internet or watch TV. Although we have the best intentions to be productive we often fall short of our goal. Now why is this? Why is it so easy for us to go straight onto YouTube or turn on the TV and do the same repetitive behaviour for hours, but at the same time it's extremely hard to focus on a behaviour or some aspect of ourselves that we want to improve? This is because of the association we have between the action and how it makes us feel.
Relationships and reinforcement
It is a universal behaviour that when we experience something good we will continue that action. The opposite is true when we experience something difficult or not pleasurable, we will not want to repeat this behaviour. Now how do we change so that we can train ourselves to think of the behaviour that we want to do results in positive reinforcement. One way is to think of the positive outcome of the behaviour instead of focusing on perceived difficulty of the task which results in the desired outcome. Now that we know the relationship between attitude and behaviour we now must put this principle into action.
Putting our words and values into actions is not the easiest task to achieve. People often talk big with rarely ever following through on what they say. One way that will increase your motivation to follow through on your actions is to not tell ANYBODY. Now you might think by telling someone of what you plan to do you this will increase your chances on following through on what you say; however, you would be sorely mistaken. By telling people about our intentions we actually are less likely to follow through on what we say.
Putting your words where your mouth is
Now you may be asking why does this happen, well that is what we are going to cover. By telling others of our intentions we feel like we have already accomplished the task at hand even though we haven't done anything and I mean anything to have this feeling validated. In turn, because we believe that we have already accomplished some aspect of our task we will tend to feel that we have already taken initiative and unfortunately this can result in taking less action than if we didn't say anything in the first place. In order to change this way of thinking we must first change how we think about completing the task.
Changing the Road
Picture this situation, you are walking along a path when all of a sudden the path splits into two roads. One road looks like a nice flat road which is easy to travel across, while the other road is rugged, dirty and full of twists and turns.. both of these roads result in arriving at the same place, which road would you choose? Most people would choose the easy road as it is the most beneficial for themselves. Because they perceive this road to be easy to travel across it in turn actually becomes easy to travel across. However once you reach the end of your destination you find out that a witch actually cast a spell on you and both roads were dirty and full of twists and no turns. You say to the witch “No way that can be true, the road I traveled across was nice and easy.” Then the witch turns to you and says “That is because I made you believe that it was that way.”
The point of the story which you should take away is that if you believe something is hard to do then it will in turn be hard to do; however, if you believe something is easy to do then it in turn will be easy to do. Our perception changes the way in which we view something as difficult or easy. If a task seems daunting and difficult to handle then the best way to overcome this is to break it down into smaller steps. In doing so you won't be overwhelmed and you will have a clear picture of what you have to accomplish next. Now that we have changed the way we view a behaviour, the last thing we have to think about is how to make sure we integrate these small steps in a way that is systematic.
Establishing a Routine
I'm sure we all have a morning routine, I know I do. Everyday I wake up, hop in the shower, brush my teeth and have a quick snack on my way to work. This behaviour is ingrained into myself that I do it automatically. Much like how we have a morning routine we must train ourselves to incorporate the behaviour that we want to do everyday and turn it into routine. Having a routine allows us to know exactly what we should do and when we should do it. When our desired behaviour becomes automatic we will be reward with a sense of internal validity.
Creating a positive association between the desired behaviour and the ease of performing the process are extremely important to the resulting action. Meaning if you believe it is easy to do someone then you will find it more easy and gain confidence because of the ease of the task. So the phrase “I think I can, I think I can” is actually the correct thought process for success Remember if you think you can do something with ease then you are half way to accomplishing it, just make sure you take action before you tell anyone; after all, no one becomes successful by being all talk and no action.
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